My article from this week's Algona Upper Des Moines about Polygamy:
Q: Does the Bible allow for
polygamy? If a Christian man lived in a
country where it is legal, would it be
acceptable for him to marry multiple wives?
Polygamy can be a challenging
question for students of the Bible.
After all, there are numerous examples of polygamous marriage throughout
the Old Testament some of which involve men who would undoubtedly be considered
heroes of the faith—Jacob, David, Solomon, and Gideon.
Unlike divorce, which has clear
guidelines in the New Testament about if/when it might be acceptable, polygamy
has no such mention. Very likely, this
is because it was not a topic of debate among the Jews of the time or among
early Christians, but there is no New Testament command explicitly allowing or
forbidding a man from marrying more than one wife.
However, the Bible clearly does not
envision polygamy as God’s design. In
the beginning, Genesis records that God creates one man and one woman, and not
a man with multiple wives. On numerous
occasions, Jesus affirms the statement from Genesis following the creation of
woman, that “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and cling
to his own wife,” using it as the foundational principle for his other
statements about marriage and sexuality.
In the Old Testament, even though God
distributes robust punishments for various sexual sins (the Sodom and Gomorrah
incident, David and Bathsheba, etc.) he does not do the same for polygamy,
perhaps indicating a different degree to polygamy than to other sexual sins,
much like hatred and murder or gossip and lying under oath bring different
degrees of earthly consequences even though variations on the same sin.
At the same time, the Old Testament’s
example never portrays a polygamous family with good outcomes. Jealousy overshadows Jacob’s household. Abraham’s taking of Hagar as a concubine had
violent consequences which are still being felt between his sons’ descendants
in the Middle East to this day, and Solomon was led horribly astray as a result
of his numerous marriage partners.
In both Testaments, the marriage
commands and advice that are given relating to married life, such as in
Proverbs and Ephesians, are always given in singular terms, certainly
indicating a preference for monogamy. The
New Testament also demands monogamy on two occasions when giving qualifications
for pastoral service. This seems to
indicate not only a preference for monogamy, but also a command for monogamy
among all Christians. This is because
all other items on the list of pastoral qualifications are also true for
Christians in general. The difference
between pastors and Christians in general is not that pastors must obey
additional laws, but rather that certain sins (such as poor parenting, or
drunkenness), while sinful regardless of who commits them, are grounds for
disqualification for the pastoral office.
Finally, the Bible draws a clear
connection between the marriage relationship and the relationship between
Christ and the Church. Monogamous
marriage reflects this relationship in that there is one Christ and one Church
which includes believers of every nation, race, and denomination (not one
church with several saviors or one savior with several Churches). Other variations on a marriage relationship
fail to reflect this reality, because their participants do not match with
their counterparts in the Christ-Church relationship.
Although the Bible lacks a direct
statement that “Thou shalt not engage in polygamy,” there seems to be plentiful
evidence, that polygamy is, at the very least, discouraged and less than ideal,
but also a convincing argument that, linked to the commandment “You shall not
commit adultery,” polygamy is unacceptable in all cases for Christians.