My article from this week's Algona Upper Des Moines about a Christian response to pornography:
Q: What is the Christian approach
to pornography? Since a person is not
engaging in a physical relationship outside of marriage and nobody is being
hurt, is it still a sin?
The starting point for this question
would be the same as any other inquiry about sexuality, which is the sixth
commandment, “You shall not commit adultery,” along with Jesus’ explanation,
“whoever looks with lust upon [another person] has already committed adultery
in his heart.”
Spiritually speaking, pornography,
live shows featuring nudity, physical extra-marital affairs, and even
inappropriate fantasies about other people who remain fully-clothed, are all
violations of God’s intentions for human sexuality.
God institutes all of the horizontal
relationships of human life (father-child, mother-child, husband-wife,
pastor-congregation, government-citizen, etc) to be reflections of the greater
vertical relationships between God and humanity or Jesus and His Church, and
whenever an alteration occurs, whether to the number or the identity of the
participants, even if only in thought or fantasy, or to the permanence of the
relationship, they fail to reflect the greater divine truth as he
intended.
Video or photographic depictions of
other people, which are created for the purpose of arousing erotic desire
certainly achieve this relational destruction in a similar manner to live
nudity and physical affairs. Although
the practical consequences might build more slowly or seem less severe, the spiritual
and relational destruction occur all the same.
Practically, repeated studies have
shown direct relationships between increased levels of pornography usage and decline
in measures of marital satisfaction and the user’s desire or ability to please
or be pleased by their partner intimately.
It has also been observed that
habitual pornography usage alters responses in the human brain so that the
ability to achieve pleasure or the degree of pleasure people experience from
various forms of stimulus is diminished, which in turn causes a continuous
increase in the amount of stimulus necessary to create the desired response,
very similar to that observed in drug addiction.
This often results in further
increases in usage, (accompanied by increased withdrawal from health
relationships and appropriate outlets) or sometimes escalation to other
behaviors such as soliciting prostitutes and other risky sexual actions.
In addition to the marital
consequences, many sources are beginning to report that fathers’ use of
pornography negatively impacts their ability to relate to and express affection
toward their daughters as they grow from little girls into young women, which
then may manifest in undesirable emotional or behavioral consequences in their
daughters.
Even further, an alarming relationship
has recently been observed between pornography and human trafficking, so that
many of the women involved in the making of pornography (along with large
numbers in prostitution and exotic dancing) are actually victims of kidnapping,
rape, and other atrocities, who are deceived or forced into various forms of
sexual slavery.
Even those who enter this profession
voluntarily report dramatically increased rates of mental illness, as well as
alcohol and drug abuse as a consequence of the psychological trauma of their
occupation. Most experience short
careers followed by extreme guilt and regret over their involvement. Meanwhile those who produce and sell the
product rake in yearly revenue that exceeds that of all professional sports
combined.
Even if a person disagrees with the
spiritual and moral evaluations of pornography usage based on Biblical
commands, it ultimately has to be acknowledged that the human suffering created
by the industry would inspire nearly-unanimous agreement that it is necessary to
refrain from this product in order not to contribute to the extreme
consequences experienced by those employed by the industry, as well as to avoid
the negative impact on the marriages and families of those who use it.
Thank you for writing this. I am in a support group of women whose husbands use porn. Some of the husbands (despite being Christian) do not see porn as a problem, and they take a strong stance that porn is normal and a right and is a private matter, none of the wife's business. Despite that we are hurting very much, we do not see men willing to consider the harms of porn and God's message on porn. I wish this topic would be discussed in church more. Men need to hear this from other men. They need male role models. Women are not being heard. And no one wants to acknowledge the realities of the industry and its link to trafficking. Child porn is clearly linked to trafficking, and many who have abused kids have looked at child porn. The same is true for women, but no one wants to acknowledge it. Please continue to spread the word on this.
ReplyDeleteI agree with anonymous from 20Jan2014. I think this was a well written and direct article. We MUST TALK ABOUT THIS IN CHURCH!!! It must be made clear to our impressionable youth. The draw to pornography is stronger than ever and we can see now, more than ever before it’s effects on marriages.
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